Bridal Party Dilemma: How to Handle a Difficult Bridesmaid

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From jealousy to dress disgust to micro managing, it's not always the bride who goes a little crazy during wedding planning. Bridesmaids have their shadow side too, and if you find yourself dealing with a difficult bridesmaid or maid of honor, don't fire her just yet. Keep these pointers in mind.

First and foremost, keep the lines of communication open at all times. Whether it's between you and an individual or you and the whole group, communication is key. Encourage the bridal party to communicate with each other as well. Wedding planning is a team effort.

Let your bridesmaids know that if they have a problem or concern, they're welcome to come to you and discuss the issue. The worst thing you or any of the bridal party members can do is keep quiet and brush concerns under the rug. It's bound to build up and explode in a dusty mess.

Be Honest
Get your bridesmaids together and let them know what you expect from them and what your vision is for the wedding. Be honest with them about their duties, what kind of dresses you envision them in, the amount of money you think they'll need for dress/accessories, etc. Knowing up front what you want leaves less room for unwanted surprises later on. Plus, if a 'maid doesn't think she'll be able to take on certain responsibilities or afford to actually be a bridesmaid, she can kindly bow out or talk to you about her concerns.

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Stay Flexible
Even though you have a vision for your wedding that you'll share with your bridesmaids, you must also remain flexible if every little detail doesn't manifest in the way you had hoped. If a bridesmaid is late getting a particular task done or is falling behind on her duties, don't assume that she's just being lazy or doesn't care about you enough to help out. Try to understand what her situation is and where she's coming from. Talk it out. Remain flexible and open to new ways of getting things done.

Respect & Appreciation
It's easy to get caught up in wedding planning and keeping the spotlight on you. It's your wedding, after all. But many times people act out because they don't feel appreciated or respected. If your bridesmaid busted her butt putting together your paper lanterns and didn't get so much as a thank you from you, she might get upset, and rightly so.

Your bridesmaids have their own lives and you must remember that they can't always drop everything to help you with your wedding. Respect their situations and their feelings, and always, always let them know how much you appreciate their help, support, and friendship.

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